For most parents, pregnancy and child birth is one of the most exciting and memorable times of their life. Whether this is your first or your fourth baby, there is much anticipation and anxiety before your baby is even born. Being a parent is awesome and exciting. However, there are many more emotions that are experienced, particularly for new moms. In addition to happiness, this time can elicit a variety of many other not so pleasant feelings as well.

It is very common for many new mothers to experience significant symptoms of anxiety. In fact, up to 80 percent of women experience what may be referred to as “postpartum blues,” which is also known as “baby blues.” In addition, up to 13 percent of new moms may experience a more severe reaction and be diagnosed with “postpartum depression.”

Coping with Change
Many women understand that many things about their everyday lives will change when the baby is born, but some may underestimate the magnitude of this change. New moms may need to deal with being alone at home with their baby – a baby requiring constant attention. They also may experience a lack of time for themselves, a loss of control over time, and exhaustion.

Additionally, there is often a significant adjustment to the relationship between mom and dad. Many moms feel sad, worried, lonely, overwhelmed, tearful and irritable, or they may have trouble sleeping. These feelings may last anywhere from a few minutes to a few days. At times, it even may seem like things will never get any better. These symptoms often begin during the first week postpartum and are quite common.

Too often, the media portrays new moms as blissful and everything about motherhood as wonderful. However, it is normal to experience a range of feelings. The birth of a child creates an extreme life change and, subsequently, there are many decisions that need to be made quickly. There is also a dramatic decrease in hormone levels.

Many women wonder what they can do when they start to experience symptoms of depression or anxiety postpartum. One of the greatest things a new mom can do is to use her support system. Although many have a desire to do everything for their newborn, knowing when to ask for help is a valuable skill.

Also, it is important to remember that these feelings not only impact a new mother, but also affect her ability to attach to her newborn. Family and friends are often excellent supports. Some parents may ask for specific help with their newborn, while others may ask for assistance with chores around the house. But, have realistic expectations about the responsibilities you’ve delegated; just because the task wasn’t done the way you have, doesn’t mean it wasn’t done right.

Although many of these symptoms are normal, if they continue or become too severe, it is important to contact your OB/GYN, general practitioner or a mental health professional. Treatments can be very effective, and many are relatively short term. If you are unsure, talking to a professional can confirm that your feelings are still normal before they affect you and your baby.